Ultimate Loyalty

As we finished up the six weeks of study, we looked at the idea being loyal to one another above all others. Most folks would agree that you should be more loyal to the one you committed your life to in marriage, but this also means being more loyal to your spouse than your own self. For me this means, I must esteem Tom more than myself.

If I want to have the kind of marriage that represents the whole person of the Trinity, than I will be more committed to Tom, the person, than I am the marriage. Do not read this wrong! I need to be committed to my marriage (and I am) but not more than I am to Tom, the person.

How is that possible? Well, if I'm committed to my marriage more than I am Tom, then I will keep peace at all cost. I will not risk the chance of making our marriage uncomfortable by engaging or addressing things that come up and that need our attention as a couple.

No doubt you know a couple or two who were committed to their marriages more than they were to each other. You may even know a couple who has been married for 20, 30 or 50 years but they live in a two-story house. He has his story and she has her story! They have managed to live all that time without fully entering into their relationship because of the fear of being naked and ashamed.

Our marriages can be a "WiLd ADvenTure" filled with opportunities to fail forward and get to know each other. To have Ultimate Loyalty to your spouse is to risk, repent, and experience a fresh taste of the resurrection.